COUPLE THERAPY
Relationships can be a cosmic source of joy and happiness and sometimes of a complete heartbreak, a sense of failure, frustration and unhappiness. Many of us are excited for many valid reasons and we rush into relationships. But the question remains whether we are well-equipped to deal with issues thrown at us as we sail through this love and life journey. The reality is that many of us are not prepared but there is no need to despair as the commonly presented issues are not a rocket science but common couple issues that can be resolved.
People who seek couple therapy commonly bring into sessions issues with miscommunication which is usually linked to our unconscious processes or a lack of a good communication skills. Unconscious processes simply means us using our unconscious mind, the mind that we trained so well over the years that is somehow delegates what we do and without any effort from us.
So what you might perceive as a nagging girlfriend or boyfriend, husband or wife are actually your real issues and results of your unconscious behaviour. But having had arguments by now for a longer period of time, you could feel resentful towards your partner and feeling betrayed and refusing to listen anything he or she says even if it is perfectly valid and so this process leads to a complete breakdown of communication and a state of despair. It is now that, that couples should seek couple counselling before experimenting with maladaptive coping strategies which usually create more stress.
In couple therapy, the positive and invaluable feedback from the therapist comes from the training in objectivity based on phenomenology, impartiality and that can provide clients with clearer idea of what is happening between them two. Then the personalised treatment plan is designed and tasks to reinforce a mutually agreed changes. The couples continue with the therapy until they see some or complete improvement for over a longer-period of time.The clients who come for couple therapy never deteriorate but the improvement varies from client to client and will depend on openness and ability on deciding what would be useful to their partner and in therapy and what not, a willingness to work through issues.
If you would like to make positive changes in your relationship, if you want to improve your communication style, and develop conflict resolution skills for constructive arguments email or call us. We look forward to hearing from you.